Episode 19: Best Friend: Girl Talk with my BFF (w/ Tonya)

Friendship is one of the most precious gifts in life. A true friend is someone who stands by you in every season, whether you are happy, sad, winning, or losing. Real friendship is not about being the same but about understanding and appreciating each other’s differences.

In this episode, I’m joined by my best friend of over 40 years, Tonya, for a heartfelt and hilarious conversation about the power of true friendship. We talk about showing up for friends, speaking the truth with love, and navigating life with people who truly have your back. Tune in for laughter, lessons, wise advice, and a celebration of lifelong friendship!

Song of the week: Best Friend by Brandy

Topics Covered:

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(00:02:19) Welcome to Your nEXt Chapter Podcast

(00:01:45) Best Friend

(00:02:14) Meet my best friend, Tonya

(00:04:42) Different yet alike

(00:06:54) A natural at giving advice

(00:11:07) Choose growth over guilt

(00:12:47) Break free from “What Was”

(00:15:38) What is the end game?

(00:23:34) “If I had been there”

(00:27:24) Relationship scenarios and real advice

(00:31:35) How do you know when you're ready to date after divorce? 

(00:37:00) Forgiveness

Key Takeaways:

"We talk about forgiving others, but many of us don’t realize we're angry at ourselves. You have to forgive yourself for the decisions you aren't happy with."

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About Our Guest

Tonya has been Dr. Nicole’s best friend for over 40 years, a steady source of love, laughter, and wisdom. From their teenage bowling league days to life’s biggest challenges, she’s been by Dr. Nicole’s side. As the godmother to her children and a trusted confidante, Tonya is known for her sharp humor and no-nonsense advice. Known as the "Dear Abby" of their circle, she’s the one Dr. Nicole turns to for guidance. Having walked her own path through divorce, Tonya offers honest, heartfelt advice with a balance of tough love and deep care.

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