Pathological Altruism- Do You Put Yourself Last? (w/ Dr. Jattu Senesie)

Constantly putting others first can look like love, but over time, it can cost you your well-being.

In this week’s conversation, Dr. Nicole sits down with Dr. Jattu Senesie to talk about pathological altruism and how the habit of always saying yes can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and self-abandonment. They unpack how high-achieving women are often conditioned to prioritize everyone else, how this behavior is rewarded, and why it becomes so difficult to choose yourself without guilt.

If you have ever found yourself overextended, constantly available, or wondering why you feel drained while  doing “good” for others, this episode is a reminder that caring for yourself is not selfish. As you reconnect with your humanity, you create space to live, serve, and show up from a place that is whole.

Song of the week: Cranes in the Sky by Solange

Topics Covered:

00:00:00 – Episode snippet

00:01:30 – Introducing our guest, Dr. Jattu Senesie

00:03:53 – What is pathological altruism?

00:15:49 – Signs you may be a pathological altruist

00:17:27 – “How can I inconvenience myself?” mindset

00:26:55 – Clarity comes after rest

00:29:20 – You cannot pour from an empty tank

00:32:33 – Intentional well-being: The “7 joy activities” practice

00:38:55 – Gaining energy, creativity, and clarity

00:40:11 – Learning to do less

00:42:54 – Humanity

00:45:16 – Connect with Dr. Jattu

Key Takeaways:

“If you're saying yes to them, you very well are saying no to something for yourself.”

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About Our Guest
Dr. Jattu Senesie is a Board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist turned transformational success coach and self-proclaimed recovering pathological altruist. She helps mission-driven professionals create intentional, sustainable lives by aligning high achievement with personal well-being. After retiring from clinical medicine at 35, she now supports early-career professionals, especially those in service-oriented fields, who feel overwhelmed or on the brink of burnout. Through coaching, workshops, and speaking, she equips her clients with the tools to care for themselves as deeply as they care for others.

Connect with Dr. Jattu:

Website: essenceofstrength.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/dressenceofstrength

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jattu/

About Your Host

Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE!

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